Being around someone perceived to be mentally unstable is not everyone’s cuppa chai. Most often, fear takes root. A feeling of utmost confusion about handling a situation plays on the mind. Here are a couple of ideas that may help you, should a friend or close member of the family seems to exhibit an undiagnosed illness. I do not endorse that you need to wear the cloak of shrink or counselor – just be human.
Think Before You Judge
Ask yourself first, if the person has a problem or whether it in your head. Hanging out with someone who acts out constantly may get your brains working overtime. Someone with undiagnosed OCD may display symptoms but it may not even be borderline. It could also be someone who likes things a certain way, period. When we take potshots at the person because s/he has an issue, it may open an assortment of problems. A reasonable suggestion is to stop any commentary from the gallery. As cited before, do not let your perceptions cloud your judgment – do not judge, period!
Kindness never went out of fashion. Unfortunately, it seems like nonchalance is cool. Some even opine that kindness is overrated and not imperative for every situation. If you are in the company of someone who is in the doldrums more often, it can drive you up the wall, I give you that which makes avoiding the person an easier choice. Depression does not bring along many friends, why even members of the family walk away! How about if you decide to be there for someone instead of slinking away, would you feel worse for wear? You can steer the course to a different direction, which may help the person get past the sad space. Perhaps a movie together, talking about something silly, a joke even or reminiscing about a crazy situation, can change the mood.
Friend in Need
We read about bipolar disorders taking over the lives of people. The disorder may be noticeable in the later years. If my limited areas of education and reading skills prove me right, the illness manifest anytime because of trying circumstances. I cannot say that I have been in the company of a person suffering from the illness. From what I gather, however, I believe that the highs and lows that someone goes through can change the dynamic in a relationship. When the person suffering from the disorder is regular with medication, based on doctor’s recommendation, s/he need not be a social pariah.
Refrain from Negativity
It is easy to run away from a relationship. It takes gumption and understanding to keep the embers going. I definitely feel that depression has taken over many of our lives because of a series of upsets. Unfortunately, when a person finds that s/he is alone, the silence can be deafening. Friendships and relationships stand the test of time when positivity is on the cards. Negativity never gives us the highs in life but it definitely brings on the lows.
Acceptance and Being There
When you notice someone on her/his own, all the time, the person may not be a loner after all man IS a social animal. Everyone craves positive companionship. If you cannot be friends with someone – do not fake it. There are innumerable ways to be there for someone, try being nice and comforting it works. When you have a friend or a member of the family displaying erratic mood swings, and needs professional handling, reach out to an expert who is reliable. Mental health is not a reason to avoid being with someone, it just needs you to be there for the person, period.